Every Moment

I have spent almost every moment of this day doing or thinking something about my mom or another member of my family. Except for the 13 minutes it took to look at a video of Lizzo and James Corden singing in a car.

9:00 hour long phone convo with the hammer about mom, caregivers

10:30 pick up sandwiches at Mr Pickles and drive to Mom's

11:00 drive mom and her caregiver to mom's and my favorite lookout spot to eat sandwiches and look at the fog. Discuss Mom's move to memory care with our caregiver, and let her know that we would still love to work with her. I shared this news before the next part.

Drive mom and caregiver on my favorite 6 miles of windy road. Try to drive while mom reads every word on every road sign out loud and caregiver recounts the horrific accident that happened in her family, to the nephew of one of our other caregivers. The gist of it is that two rookie cops chased a sideshow driver through city streets at speeds of up to 100mph. Our caregiver's nephew was celebrating a friend's college graduation at a taco truck, along with his disabled mother and members of a Tongan motorcycle club who had just finished escorting a Tongan singer to a concert. The sideshow driver lost control of his car, smashing cars and flipping parked motorcycles. One of the bikes landed on the nephew, killing him. The motorcycle belonged to his friend, who is heartbroken. 

2pm: home. Let sisters know that I have broken the news to caregiver #1 that we are moving mom to memory care. 

2:30: Paying mom's hospital bill

2:40: Call with hammer in which she says that caregiver #3 would like to borrow some money because of the family tragedy. We would love to *give* her that money, so I'll be writing a check.

4:00 Researching the accident

4:20: Printing out forms for memory care (caregiver application forms, pharmacy forms -- two, because they are changing pharmacies mid-month. Why make this shit easy?)

4:45: Researching original lease for the place where my mom lives now.

7:00: Home from delivering additional rent, two pharmacy forms and an emergency care release form to the new place. For some reason I had shorted them by $30.30. Wonder why. Not like I have anything going on.

A couple of highlights in the day. First, it was grey and blowing like stink and misting like crazy this morning. Second, my mom was nice. Third, tomorrow I only have to talk to my sister once.